Funeral

Friday July 25th a friend of mine's daughter drowned in their spa.  My friend has 4 children that are almost the same ages as my kids.  Her oldest is 6, her youngest is just a baby.  They have all girls.

I went to the funeral today, I am amazed at how well the parents are taking this loss.  They said that the events of the day happened like this. 

In the morning the mother and the two year old daughter washed the car together.  Just the two of them.  The daughter would wash the car where it had already been washed a rinsed and the mother said that for some reason it didn't make her upset.  The daughter also washed the keys (the mother didn't want her doing it) but it didn't make her upset.  Then she went and got the towel that was going to be used for drying the car, the daughter got it wet then dragged it across the dirt, making mud, then using it on the car.  Still the mother could not get mad... the daughter was just so happy.

The mother and father were going to go out of town with some friends and there kids were going to stay with someone for that time they were going to be gone. The mother needed to pack, but she just felt like it wasn't important.  She went to the bedroom to pack, but instead the girls came in and wanted to dance, so they had a dancing party.  Then 2 of the girls went into the back yard and they played with the hose getting all wet.  The mother went out, brought them in but they went out again.  Then the father went out, he took the hose and started to spray the girls.  They went inside to finnish want needed to be done, so they could leave.

Mother was in her room packing, father was in the office.  Mother went to the office to talk with Father and moments later one of the daughters came to the office crying.  Mother just knew what happened she ran to the pool.  She felt like she was being carried there.  She pushed open the gate to the pool, looked in the pool could not see her little 2 year old.  Out of the corner of her eye she could see pink in the spa and her daughter was there.  She pulled her out and called for her husband.  He did CPR and she call 911.  Nothing they did could help her.

She was pronounced dead after reaching the hospital.

They really feel that it was her time to go.  They do not know how she got through the gate. When they were first pregnant with her they were 11 weeks along and the mothers placenta was pulling away.  But the doctor was able to take care of her.  At 5 months pregnant, they thought that she was going to have some kind of problems while forming.  Did the tests but she turned out fine.  When she was born, while she was in the belly she some how tied a knot in the cord. They say that she was fortunate that while being born she didn't pull the knot tight.

The parents have such an amazing testimony of knowing the plan of happiness.  They know they will be able to see their baby again and one day continue to raise her.  They are so grateful that they were able to have her here for the 2 years that they did.  They just knew that it was her time to go.

My head and eyes hurt from crying and my heart just aches for their loss.  I feel such a closeness to this family, I don't know if it is because of our children's ages are so much alike, I just don't know.  But, it sure does hurt. - Ma -